The Gender Tag - Written by Giulia, Reviewed by Hunter

1. How do you self-identify your gender, and what does that definition mean to you?

I am a woman and, to me, that means strength. For most of my life, people have been trying to push a hegemonic ideal of how a female should act on me. But, now, I make the rules.

2. What pronouns honor you?

I use she/her pronouns, but I would be up to testing they/them cause I think they're cool and I would be pretty ok if everyone used them.

3. Describe the style of clothing that you most often wear.

I pretty much only use "masculine" clothes, because I feel like they're more comfortable and practical, besides, they can be as stylish as feminine clothes, so I can only see advantages.

5. Do you have facial hair? What do you choose to shave, or choose not to shave?

I don't have any facial hair, but sometimes, I shave it anyway, I don't really know why. I don't shave my legs, arms, armpits or head, but I sometimes cut my armpits' and pubic hairs with scissors, just to keep it short.

6. Talk about cosmetics. Do you choose to wear makeup? Do you paint your nails? What types of soaps and perfumes do you use if any?

I hate makeup with all of my strength. I sweat a lot and I feel makeup in my skin with extra sensibility because of the sweat. I love how it looks, but I hate to put it on. I don't paint my nails cus I'm lazy, but I like nail polish, especially bright colors. I love Phebo's soaps and I don't like perfumes.

7. Have you experienced being misgendered? If so, how often?
Do you experience dysphoria? How does that affect you?

I'm misgendered very often, most people think I'm a guy at first sight. It first started when I cut my terribly long hair, and even though I was using feminine clothes at the time, I was getting misgendered. I have a squared face, so it can be read as masculine. In those specific cases of misgendering, I experience social gender dysphoria, not facial dysphoria. I can sometimes feel dysphoric about my chest too: I wish it was flat cus I don't see any use or practicality in having them. Dysphoria doesn't affect me, it just feels like gender alienation, rather than gender dysphoria.

8. Talk about children. Are you interested in having children? Would you want to carry a child if that were an option for you? Do you want to be the primary caretaker for any children you may have?

My greatest dream has always been being a mom. I would like to adopt, not to carry them. I would like to be the primary caretaker, but I'm lazy (as we already stated), so I would like to have more than one person taking care of our children. I don't like the idea of binary parenting, so if I could have two, three or four adults raising our children, it'd be a dream come true.

9. Talk about money. Is it important for you to provide for a family financially if you choose to have one? Is it important to you that you earn more than any partner you may have? Do you prefer to pay for things like dates? Are you uncomfortable when others pay for you or offer to pay for you?

I don't care for money, but I would like to have projects and getting my coin on them. I'm thinking of writing books and making graphic design gigs or a career, I don't really know. I'm really not that possessive or interested in money, I just would like to have enough for what I and my family want.